WHY I STOPPED POSTING
My life got more complicated a few months ago. In addition to being out of work, I found out things that meant I had to file for divorce. I think many of you know how I feel about my children, so you would know this is about the last thing I'd ever want to happen but my hand was forced. That's all I really should say about it as it is ongoing. I had already been very hands on with my kids, but let's just say the last few months I've had to be even more so, and between taking care of them, the divorce itself, and looking for work, it's been pretty much all-consuming. I'm sorry I let so many of you down between the show disappearing, and then me disappearing. Also, I don't know that the show will ever return now, as I can't move from a hundred mile radius once this goes through, and unless an opportunity came up right here which doesn't look likely, it means I had to choose between my career of 25 years or my kids. I chose my kids. I hope everyone's doing great and if we see each other around town please don't hesitate to say hi, cuz I miss you guys, I really do.
posted by Jeff Deminski at
11:31 AM
51 Comments:
Good luck, Jeff. We all miss you guys.
August 18, 2010 at 12:35 PM
Sorry to here about your pending divorce Jeff. Best of luck are you are missing on the airwaves!
August 18, 2010 at 2:01 PM
Sorry to hear about your pending divorce. best of luck and hope to hear you on the detroit airwaves in the future
August 18, 2010 at 2:03 PM
Good luck, you've got a lot of people praying for you, I'm sure.
August 18, 2010 at 4:02 PM
Jeff,
Sure hope Jack & Mina appreciate the sacrifice we (the listeners)are making for them ;-). You are absolutely making the right choice!!! You & Bill are still missed every afternoon from 3-7. Take care of yourself & your kids. Keep up with the blog when you have some free time...there just isn't anything like the world according to Deminski.
"First-time, long-time"
August 18, 2010 at 5:57 PM
Very nice to hear from you once again Jeff! I hope everything works out for you with all that is going on in your life.
Ive been downloading all of the D&D podcasts and listening to those because I miss the show so much. I wish the show could come back but as you said it doesn't seem likely.
Are you and Bill still living in the area? It would be cool if you guys did some kind of gathering at a local bar if possible. I have never had the pleasure of meeting you guys and would love to get the opportunity.
August 18, 2010 at 6:00 PM
Your a good Man Jeff Hang in there,
August 18, 2010 at 8:30 PM
sorry to hear that, your kids always comes first.
August 18, 2010 at 8:51 PM
I've never written before, but was a fan since day one in Detroit! Just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear your news...HANG IN THERE....And kudos to you for choosing the kids! Life's too short and our kids are what it's all about anyway!!! Try and keep your chin up!
August 19, 2010 at 1:24 AM
Hope all goes well. Take care of the kids. And yourself.
August 19, 2010 at 5:21 AM
OMG! I've been checking the site, but figured you had a job on the line and backed off posting until things were firmed up. Good luck with this. Things will smooth out eventually. I still hold out significant hope to hear you on the air!
August 19, 2010 at 8:48 AM
I was a long time listener and decided to check in to see if you had gotten a new gig. I am sorry to hear about your marriage. I am in the same boat 2 weeks ago my husband of 14 years asked for a divorce. Of course you choose your kids over career, but I hope something great comes your way that can be good for both. Try to stay positive and remember all the loyal listeners miss you and are pulling for you and your family.
August 19, 2010 at 1:43 PM
My heart aches for you Jeff. I can't even begin to imagine the position you find yourself in. :o( You and the kids will be in my thoughts and prayers. I trust things will work themselves out for the best in the end. *Hugs*
Becky (From Lamaze class ;o) )
August 19, 2010 at 4:57 PM
Hope things get better for you Jeff. I know I for one miss the hell out of the show but you have to take care of your own life before anything else. Best of luck to you in all future endeavors and I hope that you can at least occasionally pop on to let us know how things are going.
August 19, 2010 at 5:36 PM
Hell Jeff, that completely sucks. But your kids are the right choice.
Be well man, and find a good job that will help you support the little mini-Deminski's.
You gave us all years ans years of a great radio show. It's time to do what's best for you and your real family.
Try to keep us posted even if radio is dead to you.
Be well Jeff.
August 20, 2010 at 8:00 AM
Very sorry to hear this Jeff. You didn't let anyone down, you have a life to live. Post again when you can. In the meantime, I continue to send out vibes to the universe that D+D will return to the Detroit airwaves once again. - Heather (met you briefly at Chuck E Cheese a few months ago)
August 20, 2010 at 10:36 AM
Jeff, You haven't let anyone down. Your kids are the right choice. But oh yes, we miss you! :) I hope things get better for you soon. Stay strong. We're still behind you!
-Amanda
August 20, 2010 at 3:53 PM
I echo the thoughts of others - been a longtime listener as well - here's hoping you will find serenity and peace (as well as steady employment!)
August 20, 2010 at 7:24 PM
Jeff,
Your kids have to come first. Good fathers are hard to come by, and you're a good father. People sometimes have to make choices like that, even ditching decades-long careers. Hell, almost nobody sticks with a career that long anymore anyway. Take it easy, do what you have to do, and don't worry about us. Just check in occasionally, and maybe I'll see you at the store again. :) Maybe after all this blows over we can all do another bar night, and we can buy YOU drinks. Hopefully Weirdo won't dance. Or wear that hat. LOL
Jen
August 20, 2010 at 9:08 PM
If the show can't come back, that'd truly suck. But when the chips are down, there are things in this world that are more important.
I just wanna repeat what everyone else has said - You haven't let a single person down, and you certainly don't owe any of us here an apology. You and the rest of the guys gave us TEN YEARS and I doubt anyone would be so selfish that they'd ask for anymore than that.
Seeing that I live about an hour north of the Detroit area, I doubt I'll ever get a chance to randomly bump into you. But I'd still love the chance to buy you a beer one of these days if the chance ever came up.
Tom
Birch Run
August 21, 2010 at 5:20 AM
May you find peace.
You've made the right decision, your children come first.
You are in our thoughts and prayers.
August 21, 2010 at 4:53 PM
Mr Jeff,
This is just terrible news. I am beyond sorry that this is happening to such a class act such as yourself. Just remember that those terrific kids will help you through this more than you know. They sure have one helluva Dad!
Jimmy (the Clutch)
August 22, 2010 at 2:38 PM
Nah Jimmy, it's my job to help THEM through it. Thanks for the kind words bro.
Jeff D.
August 22, 2010 at 2:57 PM
Best of luck to you Jeff! Please update this blog whenever you get a chance. I really miss D&D. I moved from Detroit to Baltimore and I still managed to catch you guys via the podcasts...
If you can't get on the air in Detroit, maybe you could do something over the internet. Over-the-air is so old school now days anyways and there are a couple of former "on-air" personalities make a go-of-it online. Dan Carlin is one example.
Just something to think about. Best of luck!
August 23, 2010 at 8:21 AM
Real Sorry Jeff. I second all that has been already said. Best of Luck.
Ed - Dearborn
ps
I saw someone mention about D&D podcasts. Does anyone have a link? The link I get through google gets too many pop up ads.
August 23, 2010 at 1:05 PM
Yeah this is the one you probably looked at. http://deminskidoylefanpodcasts.blogspot.com/
Yes it has a lot of pop up ads and its a pain but its worth it LOL. I bought a month pass at megaupload which made things easier.
August 23, 2010 at 5:39 PM
Jeff:
I am so sorry to hear about your divorce. I know how important your kids are to you.I wish you well in your job search. Many people miss listensing to you on air. But your relationship with your kids is the most important.
Lisa,
Exercise Physiologist
August 23, 2010 at 7:31 PM
FYI on the popup ads for the audio archive blog...best way to avoid them is to hit Esc (or click your browser's Stop button) after you click the download link and as soon as the distribution page loads. The ads are part of the filehosting site, not the blog itself. There also a great ad-blocking Firefox plugin for those one-click hosting sites at:
http://www.skipscreen.com/
August 24, 2010 at 9:58 AM
so sorry to hear of the divorce..maybe with a good lawyer and judge would lift the mile radius so you can work in light of what you do for a living...I am thinking that could be brought up and have it work ....hoping you get a break that goes your way for a change
August 24, 2010 at 12:15 PM
Jeff,
There's a reason this town loves you. Because with as much as you are going through right now, you are worried that you are letting us down.
You don't have to worry about letting us down. You and Bill have given us something most people never get. We were able to connect with you without most of us ever meeting you. For that, we owe it to you to never complain that we can't hear you anymore. You gave us so much of your life that you deserve to focus on your children. Take time for yourself. And know that we are proud to have supported such a great person like you.
If I ever run into you around town, the first round is on me.
August 24, 2010 at 2:58 PM
Jeff,
I am shocked and saddened by your recent news. I wish you all the best with your procedings. On one of your replies you mention how YOU must help your kids get through this time, but take it from someone that has gone through it... your kids can also help you!
I look forward to hearing you guys on the air again sometime. I used to download all your podcasts daily, and now I'm kicking myself that I didn't save them.
Best of luck!!
August 25, 2010 at 12:15 AM
Sorry to hear about the divorce. It's horrible feeling finding out your trust was betrayed.
As I have a 2 year old son myself, I know how much a no-brainer it is to pick your kids over a job. They are more amazing and more rewarding than any job could ever be.
Mine wish you and yours all the best and better times.
"First time, Long time"
Dave
August 25, 2010 at 8:27 AM
Wow, Jeff...what a bummer! I agree with Scott's comments: you and Bill have never let us down, but it says a lot that you think that way of us with all you are going through.
Career or kids? As long as you can sacrifice the former and still find a way to feed the latter, it's absolutely a no-brainer!
Very sorry to hear that things have gotten even more complicated; I'm sure it has been very tough for you. But there is one thing you have that most people don't: tens of thousands of friends! :-)
Stringing one observation and a couple of cliches together, I can see a glimmer of hope. Observation: the radio industry is blowing itself up right now and will soon be ripe for a renaissance. Cliche 1: It's always darkest before the dawn. Cliche 2: Necessity is the mother of invention.
Maybe, very unfortunately, The Deminski & Doyle show as we know it will never return, but somehow I think radio--or some future offspring of radio--hasn't seen the last of Jeff Deminski. Or Bill Doyle, for that matter.
August 25, 2010 at 9:50 PM
I am sorry to hear of your impending divorce, but happy to hear of your staying in the D because of your commitment to your kids. Thanks to you for being the father first and the professional second. I am hoping that someday Detroit will realize what 'gems' they had in you and Bill, and somehow bring you back. Until that time, hang in there and continue to keep us posted when you can. We miss you, and good luck!
August 26, 2010 at 10:55 AM
Jeff, I am so sorry you are going through this. Your kids are lucky to have a dedicated father like you. Many men would choose differently. Wishing you the best if a bad situation.
Mary
August 26, 2010 at 11:41 AM
Jeff, keep the faith! By making the right decisions with your kids, you're giving yourself some AWFULLY GOOD karma! Maybe something radio-related (in Detroit) will come of it down the road? :-) Us listeners can only hope! I REALLY miss the show, the old 97.1 show that is... Being NOT a morning person, I rarely heard the 94.7 show! Miss you & Bill tons, and best wishes to you always. Divorce SUCKS! I'm also twice divorced, but I think I was just warming up for the happiness I have with my childhood sweetheart husband #3. Good futures to come, just got to wade through today's bullsh*t get there!
August 27, 2010 at 4:02 PM
rock--->(You)<---hard place.
you made the right choice.
and as far as letting Detroiters down, take that load off of your shoulders now!
you don't need the extra stress.
kinda like a slutty bra, we are and will always be here to support the double D even if a new show never pans out.
August 30, 2010 at 10:30 AM
So sorry to hear about this, Jeff. You are a good looking man with a great personality so you you will survive and yes, the kids should always come first. Keep being a good dad and the rest will follow. My husband had the same restriction with his children that he had custody of (which I presume you will also, or would not be tied to the area). He was able to prepare an argument for the courts (himself - he did the research and prepared the argument -no lawyer fees) stating all of the reasons why he should be permitted to move away and it worked, so there may be an opportunity in the future. He did end up moving back here with me and the children, so it all worked out for the best. I wish you all of the best.
~Michele Lietz
September 2, 2010 at 11:18 AM
SEE! This is why you should NEVER introduce your wife to Supersize! Kidding aside, I wish I could give you a big man hug, because I feel for you. At least you have two sweet, young balls of love that you can be with and raise to be people as great as their father. I know you are in hell, but the pain subsides with time. Best of luck.
September 2, 2010 at 7:58 PM
I have to assume that since you can't move farther than 100 miles from here that you are going for primary custody... Hoping everything worksite for you, good things come to the people that do the right thing! Sometimes it takes awhile, but trust me eventually you will get rewarded for your sacrifices!!!!
September 3, 2010 at 1:56 AM
Jeff,
I listened to you and Doyle from DAY ONE on WKRK and on WCSX.
I hope everything works out well for you and your children. So sorry to hear you are going through a divorce. I went through a divorce after being married 8 1/2 years this year as well due to circumstances caused by my wife that I could not accept. It stinks but will get better for you and the kids as time goes by. Good luck in the future and hope to hear you on the Detroit airwaves sometime again.
September 3, 2010 at 2:40 PM
I was a long-time loyal listener to the show and really miss it. More than anything I miss you and Bill. In some strange way we had little windows into your lives, and I was a listener who was very fortunate to have spent time with you guys in and out of the studio. You're the only show I've known in Detroit who invited AND welcomed listeners to their studios and tried to have get-togethers. I hope when things settle down you'll want to get out and maybe hang with some of us diehard fans.
I'm sure after all is said and done, you may find this is the best thing (hard to believe that now). Life is tough, you just have to be a LITTLE tougher! Hope to see you again soon!
September 3, 2010 at 6:04 PM
You made the right choice,At times you may second guess on alot of things but never on the kids.
September 7, 2010 at 9:24 PM
Jeff I'm sorry things have taken a turn in your life. Been there myself. It gets better with time. Do what you must to keep yourself together. Your kids will be Ok if you are Ok. Mark
September 9, 2010 at 11:03 PM
Hi Jeff,
I'm so sorry to hear about the divorce. Please don't be concerned about not posting - we understand. Keep your chin up and know that things will get better. I thought that this marriage would work out for you - you seemed so happy while you were on the air.
Us die-hard fans will be here for you when you get back on the air - we will wait patiently.
Big HUGS,
MissinCO
September 26, 2010 at 8:51 PM
I'm late reading this but still very sorry to see this news. Hope everything gets easier for you soon and miss hearing you on the radio.
Best,
Laurel
September 27, 2010 at 1:46 PM
This is bullshit. When does Demenski get a break?
October 3, 2010 at 12:25 PM
Jeff,
You and Bill gave so much to your listeners. We can never tell or show you how much your laughter had given through the years. I was sorry to hear about the changes in your life. I pray all will be well for you and your children. The airwaves will never be the same. Maybe we can all chip in and buy a station. Think about it. A hundred thousand fans times say a hundred bucks....anyway think about it. id chip in more if i had to.
take care
always prayin'
karen
October 15, 2010 at 1:13 PM
Jeff,
I've called one radio station one time.
I've written one response to something posted online by a media personality
I've watched one said media personality move in across the parking lot from my townhouse
Challenged that same person to a race with my kid in the car
Finally wrote this cheesy response to him below
Not to steal another of the jocks bits from days of yore but I think I just may have a man crush
One of my fondest memories is when my then young teenage son spent hours cutting mix tapes of D&D for our cross country vacation several years after my divorce... the ex freaked out, the vacation never happened, but the effort and thought on his part was the thing that made me happiest.
You are doing the right thing
November 16, 2010 at 7:50 PM
No more corn surprise for you!
November 29, 2010 at 7:18 PM
Jeff,
You have nothing to be sorry for, you have a battle and you are making the right choice.
I want to add my voice to the many that say you and Bill were great to listen to. I won't waste space bemoaning the demise of your show but I just want to tell you that what made your show great was how you elevated it. IT wasn't shock jock crap and it spoke to people on an age appropriate level. I try to listen to WRIF in the morning and you can see them angling to work in a dirty word or phrase from 30 seconds out; 4th grade stuff.
Your show was really one of a kind and I can't believe there isn't a market for you here.
If you get any ideas about how we (your loyal listeners) could stage a rally or something to make our wishes known, please post it. Our desire for your show's return has not waned and we are all pretty much hoping for a spark that we can fan.
In the meantime, hang in there, your kids are in good hands.
January 10, 2011 at 9:52 PM
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